The question of long distance relationships has plagued society for ages. There are a lot of people who want to believe that love conquers all and that distance is just another obstacle in a great love story. The real answer to the question however, is it depends.
There are a lot of factors that can help or hurt a long distance relationship but I think in the end, the cons outweigh the pros. And for most people, long distance just doesn’t cut it. Don’t get me wrong, several of my closest friends have had successful long distance relationships, so I know they can work. But I think a long distance relationship can never be as fulfilling as a normal one and that for the majority of people that have been in one, the distance does become a problem.
We live in a world with many technological advances that allow for effective frequent communication. But everyone can agree that talking on the phone is never as good as having a face to face conversation. In fact, common courtesy dictates that there are certain things you should absolutely never discuss over the phone, but in person. With long distance relationships, most of your conversations are on the phone or on the internet. It’s more like having a pen pal than a significant other.
And because you have such little time to spend with each other, if any, your other social relationships suffer. My friends that have been in a long distance relationships can tell you that when he calls after he gets off work, they have to make a choice. If you’re out with friends, it’s awkward to have a proper conversation on the phone. So you either choose friends, or choose your significant other. Whereas in a regular relationship, your social worlds can co-exist because of the nature of a long distance relationship, this is much much harder. You usually end up having to sacrifice something.
One of the biggest problems with long distance relationships depends on how it started. Relationships that began as long distance often fare better than those where one person had to move away. First of all, not everyone is receptive to the idea of a long distance relationship so you always have some problems if one person wants to try it and the other doesn’t. Even if you end up convincing them to, the relationship will suffer as a result.
In worse case scenarios, people get lonely and long distance relationships, I feel are more conducive to cheating. I think to some extent there will always be people that are more prone to cheating than others, but when put in a situation where you can’t even be close to the person you love, you might make that mistake out of desperation and loneliness. And since it is long distance the other person has less of a chance of finding out which probably also results in the decision to cheat.
When all is said and done, technology can only take you so far. Relationships are best had in person.
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